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An Old Buddhist Story About Forgiveness | Gelong Thubten


There’s an old buddhist story that illustrates how we can develop forgiveness somebody throws a stone at you hits you with a stone And then the buddhist teacher says to you Who are you angry with? Then you would say I’m angry with the person The teacher says well it was the stone that hit you not the person. So why aren’t you angry with the stone and Then you would say I’m not angry with the stone because the stone had no intention, it’s just an inanimate object. It was thrown by the person so I’m angry with that person Then the teacher says well using that logic You should not be angry with the person you should be angry with their pain Because the person is just like the stone Helplessly thrown by their pain So if we understand this way of thinking this can help us to build understanding and forgiveness

Jean Kelley

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29 COMMENTS

  1. sisyphus-wins Posted on July 14, 2017 at 10:24 am

    Wow! This was an amazing parable… So much wisdom in such a simple yet profound tale. Thank you.

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  2. Zac Ballas Posted on July 15, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    mind = blown

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  3. NATURE TRACKS TOURS Posted on November 18, 2017 at 1:47 pm

    THANK YOU VERY MUCH

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  4. Dalton Hurst Posted on November 22, 2017 at 6:09 pm

    I almost broke down into tears. Omg.

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  5. Utkarsha Jadhav Posted on December 6, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    Amazing ๐Ÿ‘

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  6. NoLongerHuman Posted on January 30, 2018 at 3:22 am

    Poor Hitler he was in so much pain, poor catholic priest raping children they had no choice about it at all

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  7. Wangyal Sherpa Posted on January 31, 2018 at 6:57 pm

    ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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  8. Lavender Violet Posted on March 19, 2018 at 2:47 am

    this teaching feels challenging to apply to self-forgiveness… (any advice?)

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  9. Leslie Beckwith Posted on August 5, 2018 at 2:22 pm

    yes, and we all have pain so we are all the same, just different levels of pain, so can forgive knowing we are all the same.

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  10. Cheryl Lewis Posted on August 5, 2018 at 2:35 pm

    Yes, but the person who is in pain has choices about how to deal with it. Like the saying says, heal your wounds or you'll end up bleeding on those who did not hurt you.

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  11. iamasmodai Posted on August 5, 2018 at 2:35 pm

    So, Hitler should be forgiven because he felt pain? Stalin? Pol Pot? They should get a bye because they didn't find a better way to deal with their pain? SMH

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  12. Kimberly Posted on August 5, 2018 at 3:01 pm

    Wow….powerful. ๐Ÿ™

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  13. Kaushal Damania Posted on August 5, 2018 at 3:37 pm

    What a amazing logic

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  14. John Sampson Posted on August 5, 2018 at 4:17 pm

    I do not quite buy the argument, because not everyone throws a stone , because of their pain. Lots of people throws stones because they are dishonest and make you the target of the stone that they throw, as well as their dishonesty. If they wanted to rid themselves of pain, there are other ways. Hurting someone else is not the answer and expecting forgiveness for a bad decision like that is a bit of a stretch.

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  15. Elena Makarova Posted on August 5, 2018 at 4:30 pm

    I have heard that story with a little bit different meaning, which resonated more for me. In the story I have heard – a person is like a tool in Creator's (or whatever you call Higher Wisdom, Karma etc..) hands… Its just channel – to bring us lesson or experience we need… and the one who send us this experience – is a higher wisdom… in this case, it really helped me to "take the message or experience"and forgive the messenger…

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  16. April LHeureux Posted on August 5, 2018 at 5:23 pm

    I understand forgiveness to be for me, not for the person who threw the stone, while never condoning nor accepting what they did. I get that people do horrible things from their own context, but I will never say it's OK what Hitler et.al. did, ever. Nor can I forgive that behavior, as I am part of humanity and those were crimes against humanity. I am not that evolved.

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  17. Carola Meyer Posted on August 5, 2018 at 5:59 pm

    Very powerful – and relevant. Thank you.

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  18. Darrell Redford Posted on August 5, 2018 at 6:08 pm

    ABSOLUTELY NOT! We should forgive but everyone is an agent unto themselves. WE choose how to act, no matter the circumstance. Playing a victim removes your power, and we were designed by our creator to be powerful beyond belief. These kinds of teachings are subtley deceptive and very, very destructive.

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  19. S A Posted on August 5, 2018 at 6:17 pm

    ๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜• Terrible. If we took that approach, the whole judicial system of police , judges, lawyers and prisons wouldn't exist and rapists, peadophiles, muderers, robbers, would be met with ' forgiveness' and understanding that they didn't have a choice. I don't think this guy has ever felt real loss or pain.

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  20. MaddFoxxy Posted on August 5, 2018 at 6:32 pm

    Thank you truly for more words of Divine guidance and understanding. I am grateful for the outreach

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  21. veronica Alleyne Posted on August 5, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    kinda glosses right over the concept of personal responsibility which demands we be accountable for our actions, no matter what has been done to me does not give me the right to inflict misery on you or assault

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  22. Helgurd Mirza Posted on August 5, 2018 at 8:37 pm

    I wish Life was so simple as the teacher was imagining!

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  23. Bulent Basaran Posted on August 5, 2018 at 9:03 pm

    How easy to misinterpret this wonderful teaching. Forgiveness is not about the other (by all means, do your best so they won't pick another stone or hurt someone else!), but about being more constructive in our responses to the misdeed…

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  24. Kate Li Posted on August 5, 2018 at 9:46 pm

    F that!! The person is at fault. That person needs to grow up and not throw rocks at people because "he felt pains." Yeah even Jesus said those who picked up rocks and throw stones are sinners.
    He is not 2 year olds and can't think thru his f up emotions to sort of out with violence at another's expense. SMH. This obese fake fat "monk" in showy cloths is spreading false teaching to say it's ok to accept juvenile behaviors and be victims.

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  25. Des o Posted on August 5, 2018 at 10:59 pm

    I suppose its similar to the story of Jesus on the cross, when he said "Forgive them for they know not what they do "

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  26. Annemarie Slee Posted on August 6, 2018 at 7:23 am

    Thank you! Love from the Netherlands, Europe.

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  27. Charles Aldous Posted on October 17, 2018 at 9:18 am

    I expected something a little deeper than this. Like why did that person throw the stone at ME? Why should I forgive them, for choosing me, when there are plenty more people they could have used as a target. I am not responsible for their pain. Yes, if I had hurt them, then I would expect to have stones thrown at me, but as usual, it's probably someone else who caused the pain, but as I am probably the nearest one to them, I get the punishment. Don't bother trying to explain it to me though, because you won't be able to explain away the other thousand or so stones that hit me before this one. I think that's what they mean by being one of life's natural 'victims'. Try harder next time.

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  28. klaas de jong Posted on February 18, 2019 at 3:21 pm

    He is not a real Tibetan , is he? More like a commercial Englishman with a lot of bankaccounts ? Am i right?

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  29. Mindvalley Posted on August 14, 2019 at 4:32 pm

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